Filling in the Dating Gaps

Candace Bushnell doesn’t think it’s all worth it for women anymore. We’re only attracted to ten percent of men, she told me one strikingly dewy April evening, and if we can’t have that then we might as well just be alone. Bushnell probably does not realize she’s touting off a commonly repeated claim of incel forums, but it’s not as though she has sympathy for them. In fact, she thinks porn is probably what’s making men so bad these days, a claim itself often repeated by radical feminists. We happened to be at Onieals, the restaurant used as the setting for Sex and the City’s own Scout bar owned by Miranda’s (ex) husband. I wasn’t expecting to meet her that night. I’d been invited to the press launch party for When We First, a combined matchmaking service and dating app. It was the third dating app related event I’d been invited to that week, and the third I’d attend. I figured this last one would be casual, a mixer of sorts. “Let me introduce you to Candance,” one of the PR women said moments after the first cosmo made it to my hands.