Sex For Sex's Sake

There’s a pressure in talking about sex to make it about something else. I do it myself in my own work — when I write about sex, I often highlight that my broader emphasis is on loneliness and human connection. Sex, in that context, is just one vector toward a certain end. That’s not untrue. The problem of sexlessness isn’t really about intercourse. It’s about a lack of energy, a lack of communing, a listlessness and vacuity that pervades our day-to-day. It’s not about sex, except for the way that everything is about sex.